From The Family Afterward...
The head of the house ought to remember that he is mainly to blame for what befell his home. He can scarcely square the account in his lifetime. But he must see the danger of over-concentration on financial success. Although financial recovery is on the way for many of us, we found we could not place money first. For us, material well-being always followed spiritual progress; it never preceded. pg127
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It's unfortunate that so many alcoholics forget or don't know what can actually be gained and experienced when we put our spiritual progress before everything. The real alcoholic is an alcoholic because of the disconnect from Spirit. Always searching externally to fill the emptiness.
When we find alcohol- the counterfeit, inverted, and temporary version of peace, wholeness, contentment and serenity we get in God; we go to any lengths to hold that and to keep that. In sobriety, if untreated, an alcoholic will find something other than God like relationship, job, school, to gain material well-being before spiritual progress and it will never "fill us".
Sometimes we end up resenting the very thing or person we made our God because they do not meet our expectations and weren't what we thought they, or it, would be.