Recovered Alcoholic

When I forgive (myself or others), I am not saying what I or they did was ok, I am simply allowing us to grow beyond the bondage of that event we are stuck in. So if I had stayed in the mentally I had when I got here which was "Ok, I'll do the Steps, but I'm not forgiving ___________, _________and _____________ever."-then I would be drunk or dead. If that is how some people stay sober then that's fine, I can't. I can't work the Steps that way or continue to carry a resentment. HALF MEASURES availed nothing but half measure results. So again, that's fine if people can stay sober-just don't spread that as normal-and don't sponsor me. We are here to recover and be cleared of resentments-period. And then when new resentments crop up, we know how to properly process resentments this time around. Instead of trying to figure them out, what makes them tick, their motives and reminisce about why they would do that or unpack why they hurt me...in all of ...

  Helping others is the foundation stone of your recovery. A kindly act once in a while isn't enough. You have to act the Good Samaritan every day, if need be. It may mean the loss of many nights' sleep, great interference with your pleasures, interruptions to your business. It may mean sharing your money and your home, counseling frantic wives and relatives, innumerable trips to police courts, sanitariums, hospitals, jails and asylums. Your telephone may jangle at any time of the day or night. Your wife may sometimes say she is neglected. A drunk may smash the furniture in your home, or burn a mattress. You may have to fight with him if he is violent. Sometimes you will have to call a doctor and administer sedatives under his direction. Another time you may have to send for the police or an ambulance. Occasionally you will have to meet such conditions. We seldom allow an alcoholic to live in our homes for long at a time. It is not good for him, and it sometimes creates serious...

When I first got serious about my recovery, I immersed myself in original A.A. literature. I dove into the Big Book, studied Back to Basics, became diligent with my inventory, reworked the Steps with a sponsor, and began sponsoring others. I also found a physical home group and took on a service commitment. I made a point to listen to speakers who were truly applying these principles in all their affairs; I learned that you cannot BS a BSer. I developed a sharp radar for dishonesty. When people or sponsees would lie to me—even when there was no reason to do so—I’d have an internal reaction of, "Eww, gross." I recognized it immediately because I myself was a liar. Having that behavior mirrored back to me from my new state of consciousness was a game-changer. I made up my mind then and there that I wouldn't lie anymore. That was easier said than done, of course. Fortunately, we have our inventory, our willingness to go to any lengths, our tools, and, most importantly, God. ...

This is a baseline that I didn't have before. I would get up to an alarm and off to the races. If I was off that day, and woke up naturally, I was probably still in a state of fear about what I needed to do that day to ensure my needs were met or give the impression that I somehow knew what the hell I was doing. As an alanon too, my thoughts naturally went to what did I need you to do to ensure my needs were met that would make me ok. So before I would even get out of bed my mind was racing, shemming, manipulating, rehearsing conversations, explaining, convincing, debating, lying, ect. At some point you just start to believe that those thoughts are your thoughts and you become interwoven with them. Then when I act upon them, my spiritual malady gets worse because none of that information aligns me to God which is my organic state-everything else is the ego that makes noise to keep it relevant and keep me spinning and sick-and making others sick too. On awakening let us think about ...

  Thank goodness for Tradition 10. “Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.” “No A.A. group or member should ever, in such a way as to implicate A.A., express any opinion on outside controversial issues — particularly those of politics, alcohol reform, or sectarian religion. The Alcoholics Anonymous groups oppose no one. Concerning such matters they can express no views whatsoever.” "The relationship of the tenth tradition to the tenth step is this: I can be at peace and avoid outside issues by taking my inventory and not yours. I avoid controversy by taking stands with the attitude of a peacemaker. The tenth concept of service takes the process one step further and specifies what kind of inventory I should be writing about: The responsibilities for which God has given me authority. The tenth step poses the question, “ How can I survive successfully in the world by taking my own inventory and promptly ...

  "Outsiders are sometimes shocked when we burst into merriment over a seemingly tragic experience out of the past. But why shouldn't we laugh? We have recovered, and have been given the power to help others. "Alcoholics Anonymous, The Family Afterward, p. 132 Things that people stuff away or pretend didn't happen we can look at and laugh about because it doesn't own us. That doesn't mean I've normalized the tragic experiences, events or behavior, it means that I am not a victim of it or using it to define me. When "It" doesn't define me it's put it in a state of neutrality because I've owned it and accounted for it thoroughly through the Steps.  Through the daily reprieve of 10, 11 and 12; this allows me to expand me spiritual resonance to gain a deeper understanding behind the things that once drove me. When I can use that experience in service to relate, instead of succumbing to it, the energy of it changes from negative to positiv...