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Bible Study
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
 New King James Version (NKJV)


  •  Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 
(those of us who use this day to parade around posting photos on facebook so that others will envy or covet what you got from your husband-not love)

  • does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 

(those of us who use this hallmark consumer day for yet another reason to beat up your husband for not getting you what you want-not love)

  • does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 

(are we rejoicing in iniquity? which is to say; do we promote and encourage immoral or grossly unfair behavior? What kind of things am I "liking" on facebook? What gross tv talk show where the audience is clapping and cheering like a bunch of animals over whatever the latest hollywood scandal is, rejoicing when they cheat or divorce....thinking this is truth or "just" entertainment-then we are rejoicing in iniquity and are guilty by association-not love)

  • bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 
(Superficial fairytail love-isn't love. Having a expectation and setting men up to fail if they don't get the right amount of flowers or forget or just think as I do about this day as silly-isn't love. I better find something more substantial than the facebook/hollywood/consumer idea of love if I ever plan to truly experience love.)
My Prayer for the Day
"Heavenly Father, in Jesus name-Thank You for teaching me what it means to love. It is the exact opposite of what is taught here. Father forgive me where I have used this day to brag if I happen to be in a relationship at the time, or when I used this day to wallow in self pity because I was alone...then maybe I would drink the day away as I looked at what other people "got" instead of using this day as an opportunity to give. Father, have mercy on us that have emasculated your men so much so that they are angry and frustrated, killing themselves because they aren't aloud to be men anymore, or have completely conformed to the agenda and really sound like women, dress like women and cut off there body parts to become women. I especially pray today for the little boys who are under attack the moment they are born. I pray that this world see's how precious our little boys are and how both girls and boys suffer tremendously without a stable structured balanced home. I am beyond grateful that I am not "hip" anymore. In Jesus name I pray-Amen"
"That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,"
Titus 2:4  
Todays Action
  • Today I will see that days like this, that the world covets, speaks directly to the core of my spiritual dis-ease 
"Selfishness - self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.
(Having a exception puts us especially, in a position to be hurt. Any exception will inevitably lead to a resentment. We can't afford to have a resentment. We don't get the luxury of having them anymore!)
"So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! God makes that possible. 

(If selfishness will kill me, I guess I should stop being selfish. Easier said then done-But with God, anything is possible! "please God, help me to not be selfish today and not to put expectations on those I say I love. Father, love is not a man made concept-integrity is not a mental concept....Integrity and love are God given...please help me to open up to You so that I may experience true love, trust and to finally have integrity!")

in·teg·ri·ty

the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.
"he is known to be a man of integrity"
honesty, probity, rectitude, honor, good character, principle(s), ethics, morals, righteousness, morality, virtue, decency, fairness, scrupulousness, sincerity, truthfulness, trustworthiness
"This is the how and why of it. First of all, we had to quit playing God. It didn't work. Next, we decided that hereafter in this drama of life, God was going to be our Director. He is the Principal; we are His agents. He is the Father, and we are His children. Most good ideas are simple, and this concept was the keystone of the new and triumphant arch through which we passed to freedom."

(Manipulating someone or something to obtain "my" desired outcome=Playing God. This simple, strait way of living, God as the Father, me as His child, leaves no room for "my" ego to get involved and stir crap up. If I am in full surrender and acceptance, there is no room for disappointment. If I am content and satisfied, then I am not driving others around me crazy by my expecting them to make "me" feel good or to "fill" me. If I am allowing others to be exactly who they are and what I choose and not constantly trying to mold them into who I would have them be, again, this is playing God, them we all find peace. 

  • Today, I will not expect ANYTHING, not a flower, acard, a kiss, any acknowledgment of this fictitious day that has nothing to do with love....If he does do something for me I will not tell anyone about it or share it on social media.

  • Today I will teach my children what love looks like for real and tell them who their true parent is! 
Luke 18:15-17 
And they brought unto him also infants, that he would touch them: but when his disciples saw it, they rebuked them. But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. Verily I say unto you, Whosoever shall not receive the kingdom of God as a little child shall in no wise enter therein.

Mark 9:37 
Whosoever shall receive one of such children in my name, receiveth me: and whosoever shall receive me, receiveth not me, but him that sent me.

Ephesians 4:14 
That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;

Ephesians 5:8 
For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:

Ephesians 6:4 
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

1 John 2:1 
My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous:

Revelation 2:14 
But I have a few things against thee, because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumbling block before the children of Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit fornication.


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How It Works
"Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average. There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.

 Our stories disclose in a general way what we used to be like, what happened, and what we are like now. If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it—then you are ready to take certain steps.

 At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not. With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start. Some of us have tried to hold on to our old ideas and the result was nil until we let go absolutely."

Hil's Blah
Thoroughly...Not half in half out, meeting maker, not sponsoring, no life of prayer, no inventory...
Recover...if you are honest with yourself
Softer and easier....doesn't lead to strong recovered and emotionally sober
Old ideas....Stuck, looping patterns, holding on....it ALL must go!
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.Philippians 4:8