This is what I want to share with you today: We were still trying to find emotional security by being dominating or dependent upon others. Even when our fortunes had not ebbed that much and we nevertheless found ourselves alone in the world, we still vainly tried to be secure by some unhealthy kind of domination or dependence. For those of us who were like that, A.A. had a very special meaning. Through it we begin to learn right relations with people who understand us; we don't have to be alone any more. 12x12 pg 117 Step 12 This was always the theme of my life- dependency or domination. When I was an active drinker and into sobriety, I didn't know what love was. I thought I did, but how could I have love if I had impure motives, dependency or domination? I had used people to "feed me". I was dependent on them to love me , do for me , make me feel good, validate me , give me attention, listen to me , think I was amazing, ect. When th...